369 Deep Question To Ask To Get To Know Someone

Do you need a few helpful ideas on what is the best question to ask your loved one to understand them better?

Not just in a superficial way but in a way that will really allow you to know him.

This list of insightful and interesting question to ask your loved one gives you the perfect way to do just that and show them how much you care.

After all, why would you bother asking about how happy are they in the relationship if you didn’t?

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1. What is your philosophy in life?

2. Are you more into looks or brains?

3. What is the one thing you would like to change about yourself?

4. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

5. What’s the difference between justice and revenge?

6. Are you closer to your mom /dad and why?

7. What makes you feel uneasy? Overwhelmed? Anxious?

8. When was the best phase in your life?

9. When was the worst phase in your life?

10. What is the most positive thing you see happening right now?

11. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?

12. What makes you feel accomplished?

13. What does it mean to live a good life?

14. Are people ethically obligated to improve themselves?

15. Wha is your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much?

16. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner?

17. If someone cheated on you, would you consider to take them back?

18. Do you share your password with your partner? How do you feel about that?

19. How do you know a person is ready for marriage?

20. If a family member needed a kidney and you were the only match, would you give one up?

21. How will humans as a species go extinct?

22. What benefits does art provide society? Does art hurt society in any way?

23. Where is your favorite place in the entire world to go?

24. Should there be limitations on the right to free speech?

25. What kind of parent do you think you will be?

26. Who is that one person you can open up about just anything?

27. Are you still friends with your exes?

28. Should euthanasia be legal? Why or why not?

29. Do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up when you are in a bad mood?

30. Did you ever write a journal?

31. What’s an ideal weekend for you?

32. What do you attribute the biggest successes in your life to? How about your largest failures?

33. What do you think of best friends of the opposite sex?

34. Do you judge a book by its cover?

35. If you could fix one world problem, what would it be?

36. Are you confrontational?

37. Are you religious or spiritual person?

38. Would you want to know you are going to die before hand or die suddenly without warning?

39. Have you ever broke someone’s heart? What happen?

40. Would you relocate for love?

41. If you had to guess, what do you think would be the most likely way you’ll die?

42. What are you most thankful for?

43. Do business owners have the right to refuse service to customers?

44. Does your job make you happy?

45. Do you believe in second chances?

46. Is it more important to help yourself, help your family, help your society, or help the world?

47. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you?

48. What is your idea of a perfect vacation?

49. If babies are considered innocent, when do people cease to be innocent?

50. When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush?

51. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again?

52. What would happen if a maximum income of was implemented?

53. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for?

54. What are your thoughts on online dating or tinder?

55. Why do humans often associate beauty with morality?

56. What is your biggest regret in life?

57. If I went missing, my body never recovered, would you move on or devote your life to looking for me? If you did move on, how long would you wait?

58. What was the greatest day of your life?

59. What do you think about when you’re by yourself?

60. What is your definition of evil?

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61. What did you want to be when you were younger?

62. If you could invite 3 people to dinner, who would they be?

63. Why did your last relationship end?

64. What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

65. Is it better to be a big fish in a small pond or a small fish in a big pond?

66. What’s on your bucket list this year?

67. What’s been your biggest mistake so far in life and what did you learn from it?

68. What are your top five favorite movies?

69. What’s your biggest pet peeve?

70. What are some of your favorite songs?

71. What does your ideal life looks like?

72. What qualities do you admire about your parents?

73. How would you describe your best friend?

74. What are you struggling with right now?

75. What’s your favorite hobby to do alone?

76. Would you rather be crazy rich or deeply in love?

77. What are you most proud of about yourself?

78. What’s something you can’t go a day without doing?

79. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done lately?

80. Who was your favorite teacher and why?

81. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done for love?

82. Did your past relationship teach you anything?

83. What memory makes you smile instantly?

84. Why do you think you’re still single?

85. What accomplishment are you most proud of?

86. What is your greatest fear?

87. Have you ever lost someone close to you?

88. If you are getting a tattoo right now, what would it be?

89. What are three things you value most about a person?

90. Who are five people you are closest with?

91. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?

92. What’s the most exciting thing that’s happened this past year?

93. What’s one thing that bothers you most about the world today?

94. Who are you closer to your mom or your dad?

95. What is the strangest dream you’ve ever had?

96. If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?

97. If you could live anywhere, where would you live?

98. If you could change one thing about the world what would it be?

99. By what standards do you judge yourself?

100. What sport did you really love?

101. What's something that no one else knows about you?

102. What is your biggest challenge in life and how did you overcome?

103. What is the weirdest thing about you?

104. What was your longest relationship?

105. Why are we here?

106. How do you deal with failure?

107. What is one dream you have yet to accomplish?

108. What would your best friend say is your best quality?

109. What made you choose the college you went to?

110. If you’re stressed out, what helps you wind down?

111. If you could tell your former self one thing right now what would it be?

112. What food could you not live without?

113. Are you a dog or a cat person?

114. What’s closest you’ve ever come to being arrested?

115. Do you think it's okay to have a close female friend at work?

116. When was your best birthday?

117. Are you living a meaningful life?

118. If freedom is simply being able to do what you want, are animals freer than humans?

119. What is one thing you wish you knew how to do?

120. Where’s one place you’d like to go that you haven’t been?

121. Is it better for a person to have a broad knowledge base or a deep knowledge base?

122. What was the last book you read? And When?

123. What’s one thing you cannot live without?

124. What do you contribute back to society?

125. Where do you usually read your news?

126. Who is your favorite historical figure?

127. What are you capable of achieving?

128. Do you believe in heaven and hell?

129. If you could teach everyone in the world one concept, what concept would have the biggest positive impact on humanity?

130. What do you want your final words to be?

131. What are some of your own personal goals in the next 5 years?

132. If you could get away with anything that you do?

133. Who is your greatest hero?

134. How long will you be remembered after you die?

135. What inspire you the most?

136. Do you live to work or work to live?

137. Name your favorite beer?

138. What should be the goal of humanity?

139. If past lives are real, what was yours?

140. Do you trust anyone in you life?

141. If heaven is real and you died tomorrow, would you get in?

142. What do you think is the most beautiful things in the world?

143. Do you believe in fate?

144. Does income inequality need to be fixed? If not, why? If so, what effective and practical methods can be used to fix the income gap?

145. Do you believe in true love?

146. How do you think people see you?

147. If you had the ability to erase something that you did in the past, what would it be?

148. What song makes you unconditionally happy?

149. If you could have anybody else’s life, who’s would you take?

150. What fictional character do you most relate to?

151. Why do people do things that they know hurts themselves and those around them?

152. What would you consider your greatest accomplishment so far?

153. What would you want to be? What is your answer if I ask that question to you when you are 5 years old

154. Have you ever cried tears of joy?

155. Why do we dream?

156. If you could take us anywhere in the world right now, where would you take us?

157. What is your biggest regret?

158. What are three occupations that machines will soon replace?

159. If you died tomorrow, what would you wish you had done?

160. What song makes you unconditionally sad?

161. Have you ever seen something you can’t explain?

162. What is your biggest accomplishment?

163. What is your biggest irrational fear?

164. If you can teleport where do you want to go?

165. What’s the greatest risk you’ve ever taken?

166. If you could do one thing without suffering the consequences, what would you do?

167. What did you miss about being a kid?

168. What is the darkest thought you’ve ever had? What about the darkest thing you’ve never told anybody?

169. What do you want your legacy to be?

170. What is your favourite family tradition?

171. Is there something out there, a thought, an idea, a current event, or a fear that you find deeply unsettling?

172. What is your favourite quote?

173. What would you consider to be your deepest fear? (This question can be really telling of the depth or lack thereof of a person.)

174. Who or what has changed your life?

175. Is there an activity that calms you? A place or a thing that makes you feel at ease?

176. What are you curious about?

177. Can you pin point the moment in your life where you were the happiest?

178. What is your favorite song and why?

179. Do you have a favorite book? A line in a piece of literature? A poem? Why do you relate to it?

180. What scene in a movie has evoked the most feelings out of you?

181. What do you do or where do you go when you need to be alone?

182. If you gave to change your name what would it be?

183. What makes you feel like you need to be alone?

184. Can you remember a time in your life you felt the most alive? Tell me everything about that memory.

185. Who is someone you really admire?

186. When have you felt the lowest in your life?

187. Where have you felt the most failure? The most success?

188. Tell me about the facts or harsh truths you choose to ignore but know you shouldn’t.

189. When have you felt like you were living life to the fullest? When have you felt like you weren’t?

190. What is the first lie you ever told? Which is the biggest?

191. What is the first secret you ever kept from anybody? Which is the biggest?

192. Are you a religious or spiritual person? Tell me why and tell me how.

193. What is your earliest memory?

194. Have you always had the same political beliefs? Is there something that impacted them?

195. Where do you find meaning in your life?

196. What is the greatest struggle you’ve overcome?

197. Have you ever been in love? Tell me about the times you have been.

198. Tell me about the times someone broke your heart.

199. When is the last time you cry and why?

200. If you can fly like a bird, where do you want to go?

201. If your life was a movie or a book what would be the title to it?

202. When have you caused the most harm to yourself?

203. What has been the biggest change you ever made that made you the most proud of yourself?

204. Think about the people you love the most in your life, what do you do for them?

205. Is home for you a place or a feeling? Describe that place or describe that feeling.

206. If you could be anywhere other than where you are right now, where would you be and what would you be looking at?

207. Have you ever questioned your sanity and why?

208. What is your most cherished childhood memory?

209. Have you ever had dreams about a past life?

210. Do you have any recurring dreams or nightmares?

211. Do you believe more in fate or that we are the creators of our own destinies because we are governed by free will?

212. Do you believe in materialism or spirituality?

213. Do you believe in extraterrestrial life? Elaborate on why or why not.

214. Would you find more comfort in the theoretical idea that that we were the most advanced species in outer space or would you find more comfort in the idea that we weren’t?

215. Do you rehearse before making a phone call?

216. What do you think was there before the universe came into creation?

217. Do you believe in other dimensions and parallel universes?

218. How do you define art?

219. If you could have the option of eradicating pain from your life would you choose to do so? Why or why not?

220. Is a life exclusive to pleasure (no suffering) worthwhile?

221. What do you think happens after death, if anything?

222. If you could be given the date of your death would you want to know it?

223. Presented with the opportunity to be immortal would you take it?

224. Would you rather be loved or love?

225. How do you define beauty?

226. Where does happiness come from? Define what happiness means to you.

227. When do you feel most confident?

228. Do you believe yourself to be truly free? If so, why? If not, what is holding you back?

229. Is there something you are ashamed of from the past?

230. Deja-vu: is there anything to it or merely coincidence?

231. What did you do when you hurt someone the most?

232. What was your father or mother like at home? How does he or she act different outside of family?

233. If you were given a choice to choose your manner of death, how would you die?

234. Tell me a really, really stupid joke that made you laugh.

235. Pick two out of physical chemistry, lifestyle compatibility, emotional compatibility and intellectual compatibility.

236. If you were forced to vote for one the biggest dictators of history, (Hitler, Mussolini, Mugabe, Mao, Saddam or Stalin), which one would you pick and why?

237. Is there anyone who has completely lost your respect?

238. Show me a music track or a scene from a film that made you tear up.

239. What is the favourite things about yourself?

240. If you could have any animal in the world as a pet, what would it be and why?

241. If you were given a chance to explore the oceans, go to outer space or visit 50 different countries, which one you choose and why?

242. How have your priorities changes over time?

243. What impression do you try to get when you first meet someone?

244. Do you think that men are more rational and women are more emotional?

245. Out of the negative emotions of greed, anger, jealousy and hate, which one would you say affects you the most?

246. What makes you most angry about our country?

247. Out of the positive emotions of compassion, positivity, enthusiasm and initiative, which one is your biggest strength?

248. If you could be President of your country for an hour, what is the one thing that you would change?

249. Describe your first kiss.

250. Has another’s pain ever given you joy? Be totally honest.

251. What do you think your worst trait is?

252. Do you want to be a parent?

253. Tell me your biggest strength outside of your workplace.

254. How would your perfect partner teach you?

255. If you were given a choice to turn into a zombie or to die, which would you pick?

256. If you had to pick one, what is the most important value you would teach your children? Honesty, kindness, courage, discipline,?

257. What responsibilities do you wish you didn’t have?

258. Are you health conscious?

259. What do you take for granted?

260. Name the one bad quality you wouldn’t mind in a partner.

261. Name the one worst quality you cannot tolerate in a partner.

262. What is the nicest thing that you have ever done to someone else?

263. What is your favourite non physical quality about me?

264. What is your favourite activities as a child?

265. What part of culture that you least proud of?

266. Tell me your biggest supernatural or paranormal fear?

267. If you got a blank cheque to fill in any amount of money, how much would you fill in and how would you use it?

268. What’s one thing that our relationship is lacking?

269. How do you recharge?

270. Name one really surprising thing that set your heart pumping and gave you an adrenaline rush.

271. Do you believe in reincarnation?

272. Tell me about the time you were so embarrassed in love, you wished you could disappear right there and then.

273. Where is your favorite place to be with me?

274. What happen in the last dream you remember?

275. Would you live a boring but comfortable 120 years or live 60 years of exciting and adventurous packed life?

276. Name the things we have in commom?

277. Have you ever been unable to sleep? What do you do with your time then?

278. Tell me about your biggest love regret that made you wish you could turn back time?

279. What is the best advice that you have ever received?

280. What’s something that offend you?

281. Where do you think we will go when we die?

282. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

283. If you were forced to pick one religion on this planet, which one would it be and why?

284. What was the first thing you bought with your own money?

285. What is your favorite memory of us?

286. Do you believe in karma?

287. What is the most romantic and loving thing you have ever done for somebody?

288. What does honour mean to you?

289. What is the most adventurous thing you have ever done in your life?

290. Where do you go when you need inspiration?

291. What do you think your future self will remember about you now?

292. How long does it take you to trust someone?

293. Is love just a feeling?

294. What’s your day-to-day mantra?

295. What quote resonates with you more than any other?

296. What is the craziest thing you have ever done with someone?

297. What’s your anti-motto?

298. Would you sacrifice yourself for a stranger?

299. Do you believe in soul mates?

300. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?

301. What trait do you envy in others?

302. What would be the most ethical way to give away five million dollars?

303. What scare you the most?

304. Where do you think we came from?

305. Is privacy a right?

306. What about me that made you fall in love?

307. Are intentions or outcomes more important when judging whether actions are moral?

308. What’s one thing that makes you feel alive?

309. Does jealousy have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?

310. What skill do you wish you had?

311. Do you ever judge someone on the darkest secret they told you?

312. If you can save another’s life and don’t because doing so would break the law, are you ethically justified in your decision?

313. How do you wish to be remembered?

314. How would your best friend describe you in five words?

315. Is it just and right to deny entry to a country when doing so probably means death for the immigrant and their family?

316. What is your most embarrassing moment of your life?

317. How would you summarize your life purpose?

318. Does anonymity encourage people to misbehave or does it reveal how people would choose to act all the time if they could?

319. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

320. Who is the first person to call when you are in trouble?

321. What do you lie the most about?

322. Is intelligence and wisdom more useful?

323. How much effort should an individual put into not offending others?

324. Is it possible to be too creative to the point of insanity?

325. What is your favorite way to receive affection?

326. Do you want to be immortal?

327. What makes you feel loved?

328. Do dreams have meanings?

329. How important is play in living a healthy and fulfilling life?

330. What is the meaning of life?

331. What do you valued the most in friendship?

332. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

333. What is the biggest waste of human potential?

334. What does love mean to you?

335. Use one word to describe our relationship

336. Is anything is too serious to be joked about?

337. What did you think when you first me time?

338. Is human consciousness just electrons flowing through neurons, or is it something beyond the physical?

339. What about our relationship makes you really happy?

340. What do I mean to you?

341. What do you consider a wasted life?

342. What is deeply unsettling?

343. What is one thing about your life you would never change for someone else including me?

344. Who do you choose first? Family or friend?

345. How do you see me?

346. Is justice a human construct or is it independent of humans?

347. What emotion do you experience the most?

348. Do you think you are brave?

349. What activities cause you to feel like you are living life to the fullest?

350. How would your best friend describe you?

351. If you could choose one superpower, what would it be and why?

352. What is your favourite romantic moment?

353. Why do some people stay in relationships that they know are toxic?

354. Who should be responsible for taking care of the elderly, the government, their families, or the elderly themselves?

355. By what standards do you judge yourself?

356. What two questions would you ask to get the most information about who a person truly is?

357. If you could press a button and receive a million dollars, but one stranger would die, would you press the button? And if so, how many times?

358. Why do we judge ourselves by our intentions but judge others by their actions?

359. Does knowledge have intrinsic value or does it need to have a practical use to have value?

360. Are you shy in public?

361. What would you genetically change about humans to make them a better species?

362. How would you define genius?

363. Are there limits to human creativity?

364. Can rational thought exist without language?

365. Can animals have morals?

366. Are you embarrassed about public affection?

367. Are you a charitable person, or do you think people need to fix their own problems?

368. What is the scariest moment you’ve ever had?

369. What is your biggest regret in life?

From getting to know his deepest thoughts about you to find out what you do to make them blush, any of these 369 questions to ask your loved one will tell it you all.

They give the ideal way to not only show your love but also strengthen your relationship.

The next time you are out in the park or cuddling on the sofa at home, why not bring up one of these thoughtful questions to ask your loved one?

You will be sure to love his answers and the extra feeling it brings between you.

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